Remember Your Brilliance

As soon as I posted the blog yesterday, I immediately my mind went to one of The Four Agreements, by Don Miguel Ruiz. My mind went to the 2nd agreement -   Don't take anything personally Here is the 2nd agreement:  2. Don't take anything personally.  The first agreement suggests that we avoid treating others hurtfully. The second agreement provides us with a way of dealing with potentially hurtful treatment from others. Because each person sees the world in a unique way, the way that others treat us says as much about them as it does about us. To not take anything personally is to acknowledge the unique identities of other people. We respect their subjective realities, realizing that their views do not necessarily describe us accurately. In reference to yesterday's post - while this doesn't diminish my part in the relationship, this agreement means, everyone in the relationship has their own idea of what has happened, based on their own world views....

In the past, I have, and maybe you have been the subject of name calling in hurtful exchanges. On more than one occasion, it was suggested to me, because I was 'supposedly so loving and enlightened' their behaviour was acceptable and I was simply expected to forgive and carry on. I did forgive. I also carried on, while maintaining personal boundaries. However, in recent days things have been niggling at me, and it occurred to me, because people perceive me as enlightened and loving, it may give them permission to say things bluntly to me, with the intent of being hurtful. I do consider myself loving and I do have moments of what I say is enlightenment and a deep understanding of myself. What I also am, is human; a spiritual being, having this human experience. I am being human.  Which means the power of their words, and the hurt filled intensity can sting and temporarily blind my heart. When people say things to purposely hurt or to get a rise from me a...